After, Psychopaths, cheats, liars and every other character I have encountered it’s very difficult to separate lies from truth at times. Classifying everyone with the same category I know is a big no no, but sometimes it happens, to a degree.
My automatic reaction to being let down used to be rage and the million why’s.
Now I sit here for a moment and pray….then think about phoning a friend! I have found that friends can have that ability to look at something without getting emotional and analysing too much. I have male friends who will just tell you how it is and then you deal with it. With women, we are clever enough to say something and include a hidden message within our actions and words which a man should be able to interpret and understand. But most of the time they don’t get it at all!
Men on the other hand, I am still trying to figure out..’ Why can’t men just say what’s on their minds? So WHY can’t men say what they mean? How do you take it? Do you ask? Will you piss them off if you keep asking why? These things have left me baffled.
What’s even harder is if you know this person, you feel ‘safe.’ is just a friend. Then you receive a line of communication which is thoughtful, but inconclusive. What are they trying to do? Plunge in head first, believe what we are told? Try and look for hidden messages? Or do you assume you are being lied to and if you’re not, it’s a bonus!
My automatic reaction to being let down used to be rage and the million why’s.
Now I sit here for a moment and pray….then think about phoning a friend! I have found that friends can have that ability to look at something without getting emotional and analysing too much. I have male friends who will just tell you how it is and then you deal with it. With women, we are clever enough to say something and include a hidden message within our actions and words which a man should be able to interpret and understand. But most of the time they don’t get it at all!
Men on the other hand, I am still trying to figure out..’ Why can’t men just say what’s on their minds? So WHY can’t men say what they mean? How do you take it? Do you ask? Will you piss them off if you keep asking why? These things have left me baffled.
What’s even harder is if you know this person, you feel ‘safe.’ is just a friend. Then you receive a line of communication which is thoughtful, but inconclusive. What are they trying to do? Plunge in head first, believe what we are told? Try and look for hidden messages? Or do you assume you are being lied to and if you’re not, it’s a bonus!
Maybe they like to keep things open…just in case. My friend had told me not long ago that I was more than likely the right person at the wrong time….She said I was ‘marriage material,’ and if someone isn’t ready for you yet, they will keep you on ice. They don’t want to say no because it cuts the cord, but they’re not ready for you yet. How thoughtful. How flattering. So is he lying and telling me what I want to hear to keep things open, or is he genuine and I take him for his word? I am losing faith in relationships and I am sure there are some lovely people out there, but where the hell are they??? should i be looking or waiting? hmmm im contemplating.
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